As we grow older, we must decisions about who we surround ourselves with. We must decide who deserves access to our lives and our experiences. As adolescents and underclass men, we are limited on our ability to decide who are apart of our lives. We must interact with our peers at school, classes, and dorms. But as we are forced to let go of our childhood as we graduate and get ready for the real world, we are given this freedom to choose who remains in our inner circles. We no longer have to allow that girl you don't get along with in your dorm or that friend you never clicked with in your college circle. You decide who you wish to keep in touch with and to visit on weekends and who you wish to know about your life.
I'm starting to realize this freedom and I decide to let go of some "friends" from my life. Despite years of support, giving and other qualities you look for in a friend, I understand that they were no truly my friend (hence the quotes around friend). And I no longer have to allow them in my inner circle as I leave college and rebuild or start new friendships.
Today I learned that we are allowed to let go of some friendships when they are no longer fulfill their role as friend. I know it is not easy to be a friend, but I should not have to use my efforts in a friendship I do not believe in or support. This is part of growing up: knowing who deserves to be apart of your life, share in your successes and failures, and experience life together.
"But things change. And friends leave. And life doesn't wait for anybody."
Perks of Being A Wallflower
It's bittersweet.
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