Winning And Losing

I'm taking a family psychology course this semester. As I study for my exam on Friday, I come across great advice for relationships, especially romantic relationships. When you and your partner fight, there can never be one winner. We are told that if I win, you lose and that outcome is desirable. But in reality, if I "win" that means we both lose. There is no communication, understanding or agreement. Therefore, a couple will win together or they will lose together. Being in a relationship or marriage is more of a partnership than a competition. It is collective and not individualistic. I believe this is a lesson that we all, especially myself, forget sometimes.